Should I stay or should I go now?

In some sense, I consider marriage a laboratory for going down there into the scary bad places. […] To me, there is no more vivid arena in which our frailties are revealed and our foibles enacted.

Salon’s advice columnist, Cary Tennis, put together a soul baring essay on his personal experiences with alcoholism, and a ragged life frayed at the edges before he married at 40. Most importantly he talks about how these experiences inform his advice to to people who ask The sex is gone — Why should I stay?